Does He Like Me?

This is a question friends pose to me all the time.

My quickest answer is, if you have to ask, the answer is likely no.

Typically when you’re in your mid to late twenties, guys know what it’s like to be rejected and that girls aren’t going to wait around forever for them to make their move. They know what it’s like to wait until it’s too late to ask someone out and have likely seen a girl they like date somebody else, so if they’re smart they won’t wait around to ask you out.

I think we need to give guys more credit than we often do in the dating world. They learn from past experiences, and most of them know that they need to be transparent if they really want to be with someone. In general, a guy worth dating will put himself on the line and make it known that he’s into you and wants to take you out.

Let’s say for argument’s sake, though, that the guy you’re confused about does like you, but he’s not being clear about his intentions after you’ve been going out for some time. You’re constantly trying to figure out where his head’s at, even after dating for a significant amount of time. What should you do, then?

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MOVE ON, and find a partner who will be a good communicator. Communication is one of the most basic and crucial components of a relationship, and if someone keeps you guessing so much from the very beginning, they will likely behave in a similar manner once you are exclusive. If you’ve had conversations about wanting a relationship and nothing materializes, take the actions, rather than just the words, at face value.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when they’re hoping to find a serious relationship is wasting way too much time on someone who won’t ever become a significant other. Instead of hoping a guy will change his mind about you or finally step up to the plate, kick him to the curb and spend your time casually dating until you find the person who is so excited to actively pursue you! You are absolutely worth finding someone who knows your worth, so do not give away your precious time to people who don’t know how valuable a date with you is. Spend your time with people who value what you have to offer and make it so clear that you are a priority in their life that you don’t ever have to wonder, “Does he like me?”

9 thoughts on “Does He Like Me?

  1. I think that this is a lesson that too many girls take too long to learn. I know that it took me awhile to finally grasp that if a guy likes me, I’d know it. If you’re questioning it, then the answer is always no. In some cases, the answer could be that he does like you but just not enough. If a guy genuinely likes a girl, he’ll make it known.

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    1. YES, this is such great advice!! This was the perfect way to really quickly summarize what I was trying to say. You are so right; he might not like you enough to make it clear. If someone is really into you, he won’t worry so much about the rejection part and will be more excited about you than he is nervous about getting turned down. Well put!!

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  2. Ugh, thank God my 20’s are almost over. It’s mostly been “This boy is really mean to me, but maybe I can change him”! Durrrrr! and “Cabbage soup diet? Sounds effective!” Durrrrrr!

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  3. Excellent blog.

    Rejection is a biggest concern of all. Communication in any dating or relationship is important. Listening to each other is always important to known that one is listening and paying attention to every detail of what is being talked about.

    If one likes someone and feels that they’ve reached the end of where does this relationship go, the decision lies within both couples. If it was meant to be…cool. This generation disappoints me. More guys in particular. They seem confused and don’t know what they want. Guys care way too much about their self-image rather than the relationship.
    I can say the same thing about woman, but I’ll save this conversation for later.

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      1. Exactly. These millennials today don’t communicate well and lack thereof.

        I’m disappointed with this generation today. It saddens me.

        I didn’t think you’d respond to my comment. yay!!! you responded. How are you?

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