Is Honesty The Best Policy?

I decided to create a brutally honest dating profile to see what would happen. Some questions I had going into this were:

  1. Would strangers accept me the way I am — flaws and all?
  2. How would this profile compare to the previous ones I have set up?
  3. How might people react to the fact that I have a chronic illness?
  4. What would strangers focus on as “important” in getting to know me?

A way I could have made this experiment even better would have been to use photos of myself with absolutely no makeup (contrary to popular belief, men, I do wear some!) and gone into even more detail about myself. I suppose I could have written that I have a dating blog, but I wanted the responses to be genuine without people wondering whether they would be written about.

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Within 24 hours I got just over 100 messages, 576 visitors, and 796 profile “likes.” Thanks for that, OK Cupid.

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When I broke it down there were some people who clearly did not read my profile at all (I even compared some of these gentlemen with a friend who has the app and they sent her the exact same messages!), but for the most part people had sent messages crafted to directly address something I had mentioned in my profile.

I was surprised to find that nobody really got my reference from The Office (littledoglover), but I was shocked at how many people opened with a line about PokΓ©mon, as they noticed the Ash Ketchum hat in my profile.

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No, that’s not the point though!

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Sigh.

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YES, you get it!

Some people asked me about my chronic illness, but it didn’t really seem to be a turnoff anyone who messaged me (Obviously there is no way for me to know how many people didn’t send me a message me because of it), even when I told them what it was called and how it affects my every day life. For the most part people skipped right over that and asked me questions about other things I had listed. Some enjoyed the pictures of my dog and I that were posted, others commented on the board games I liked or some of the goofy nerdier things I love.

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Hahaha, I like it.

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OK, this kid has me pegged.

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Good question. Step 1, be the banker. Step 2, give yourself enough money to buy a bunch of hotels. Step 3, win.

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This was my absolute favorite.

Honestly I think what guys liked most about this profile was how genuine it was. I don’t think I’d say I’m great at a big list of things, but I would say that I am always myself no matter what situation life puts me in. My dating profiles always have a strong reflection of my character, but it’s interesting that not many things change even when you throw in a little too much information.

Today’s lesson: If you decide to create a dating profile don’t try to be fancy, different, or stand out — just be your beautiful self and you will surely attract the right people.

4 thoughts on “Is Honesty The Best Policy?

  1. Dean says:

    I’ve never actually given dating sites a go myself but I always just presumed people put fiction before reality when describing themselves. It’s glad to know I was wrong! At least with you anyway.

    I know it’s hard to be honest about yourself sometimes, especially when you have to write it in front of your very own eyes! You put it all out though, kudos πŸ‘πŸ» I mean it’s better to have someone like you for what you are than for what you’re not. It’s was a great bio by the way, I can see why you got those stats haha. Good read πŸ˜ƒ

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    • singleinthesuburbs01 says:

      Thanks for reading! You should definitely try it if you’re trying to get into the dating scene; I think there are plenty of genuine people out there too. 😊 It’s a great way to get to know what you want in a future relationship as well; I think dating around is important before committing to someone.

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